I was walking out of a Chapters bookstore (Canada’s national bookselling chain) and before crossing the road to get to my car, I did what a lot of us do, I looked left, then right, then left again before starting to cross.

It struck me that I was using a lesson that I was taught almost 29 years ago by my parents. Look both ways before crossing the street. Now, do I have a specific memory of being taught that? No, but I know I was. I know as an adult I’ve almost been hit several times when I didn’t heed this advice.

It got me thinking about how much we value or devalue the influence parents have on their chldren. As a society we seem to swing between to opposing viewpoints. If a teenager goes into a school and fires a gun, we ask ‘where were the parents?’ This is coupled however, with an opposing belief that that same teenager doesn’t care what their parents think and that parents no longer have any influence over their children.

What a terrible assumption. Thankfully, research is bearing this out to be a false assumption.

A recent study by the UK Department for Children, Schools, and Families found that three quarters of teens wish their parents would talk openly about sex. This runs contrary to the cultural perception that teens don’t want to listen to their parents and instead prefer to use celebrities and peers as their role models.

Also contrary to the popular image of the rebellious teenager, another study shows that teens who believed that their parents would strongly disapprove of smoking were less likely to become smokers than their peers who believed that neither parent would disapprove. And the effect of parental disapproval remained significant even if the parents were smokers themselves.

Finally, two more studies, one by the American Bible Scoiety and another by research group Child Trends, demosntrate that not only do parents have a significant role in developing a childs positive self-image, teens also look up to their parents far more then celebrities and athletes as role models.

So parents, don’t ever give up opportunities to educate, listen, and love your children. Even if they don’t act like it, they are listening.

I have a number of friends who are woman. I count many of them as some of my closest and best friends.

On occasion either I, or they have said, “oh, were just friends”.

After being called upon to support some of these ‘just friends’ during some tough times and I having made similar demands on them, I have realized that there is no such thing as ‘just friends’.

To say that you’re ‘just friends’ while perhaps well intentioned is really an insult. It’s saying that being friends is somehow less important then being a romantic partner. (more…)

DO NOT elect a Black President
DO NOT elect a Woman President
DO NOT elect a Christian President
DO NOT elect an Asian, Marxist, Capitalist, or Business Person

One of those things matter. What matters is ideas. What matters is leadership.

If you watch CNN all you seem to hear right now is whether the USA is ready for woman president (Hillary Clinton) or a Black President (Obama). (more…)

So did I. Sounds good but perhaps not the greatest advice.

What do I mean you should quit? Well, what goal are you trying to achieve? What’s your burning desire?

What other activities are you also doing that are draining your energy and taking up space in your schedule?

This is where quitting comes in. In order to be totally focussed on your main objective you may need to quit, at least temporarily, some of your other activities.

I believe work-life balance is a lie. You can have perfect balance but it’s unlikely you’ll achieve excellence in any one area. It’s a matter of what you’ll be excellent at NOW. You may choose something else tomorrow.

So don’t be afraid to quit the things that don’t serve your ultimate purpose.

Recommended reading: The Dip by Seth Godin.

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Sunset in Alberta. Courtesy of Talie

My VA, Erin Blaskie, is building me a new website based on a blog platform. This required giving her access to my wordpress account, shopping cart, and domain management accounts.

I didn’t give it a second thought until yesterday. I didn’t think of it for any negative reason, it just occurred to me that I’ve put an enormous amount of trust in her by giving her access to some vital business systems.

Why would I do that and not even bat an eye? I think it comes down to what Stephen MR Covey calls the Speed of Trust. In the book by the same name he posits that Trust is the most important feature of any business relationship as it literally affects the speed of any transaction.

Basically:
Low trust makes things slower
High trust makes things faster

I met Erin through another colleague, Michael Port, who is a business author and coach. I’ve also had the chance to visit with her and talk and I’m glad to call her a friend. This creates a high trust relationship. So, when she asks me for access to a system relevant to the work we’re doing, I don’t even give it a second thought.

How is the trust in your business relationships? Do you take the time to cultivate positive emotions? I don’t me to suggest that you have to be on everyone’s Christmas card list, but do you have unwavering trust in the people you depend on, or do you feel you have to maintain complete control?

In my next post I will discuss the difference between Delegating and Abdicating which I think will help you let go some of your control issues, if you’re holding on so tight that your sub-contracts can’t operate at high speed.

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Two farmers badly needed rain to grow their crops.
They both prayed to God for rain.
Only one farmer tilled his field and prepared it to receive the rain.

Which one do you think God gave the rain to?

Which are you?

Are you waiting for something to happen before you proceed on a project or idea? Are you waiting that elusive ‘sign’?

Here’s the message: Don’t wait. Have trust. Trust that those things that are necessary will fall into place when you are ready to receive them.

Stop waiting for everything on the checklist to be completed before you move on.

The only thing you are likely to achieve thru inaction is more inaction and waiting.

Till your field. Prepare for rain.

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